I didn’t eat Chick-fil-a on Wednesday, but I’m also not going to boycott them forever. So I don’t really fit into a “camp”. I know I’m late in the game here, but I had trouble sorting out my emotional reaction to Wednesday. I’m sad that I’m on sabbatical right now, because this is great material for a sermon, Sunday school class discussion, or youth group. It’s a great “case” to start discussion about a lot of theological and practical issues – it’s all about needing a good dialogue with people of every viewpoint.
Why I do like Chick-fil-a and will go again
- The food is good, and healthier than most other fast food options. Except the milkshakes, they are way too good to be anything close to healthy. I think maybe they put crack in their waffle fries, because…oh, so good.
- It’s very kid friendly – my kids LOVE it.
- They give out lots of coupons (which never actually expire, despite what the date on the coupon says), and you know how much I LOVE coupons.
- They give out free bowls of cheerios for babies, and you know how much I LOVE free stuff.
- You can dress like a fool and get free food once a year. Some people even dress up and go to three different CFAs to get three different free meals, can you believe it?!
- The restaurants are clean, they even have sanitizer wipes on all the high chairs. And you know how my OCD self LOVES clean stuff.
- The employees are extremely polite and helpful, carrying my tray to my table when my hands are full of children and getting refills for my drinks without me having to get up, all without expecting a tip and while wearing a smile
- In college, there were several times for a fundraiser or other student event that they would generously donate food (every time I asked, they gave)
- Their WinShape Foundation does support a lot of worthy causes, ones I certainly agree with, but I do hope this recent controversy gets them to at least take a closer look at the anti-gay organizations they support and rethink where they send their money. Because it does matter, especially to their GLBTQ employees and patrons.
- I truly believe the owners and executives are guided by Christian values and doing their very best to be faithful in their personal and business lives, even though on this particular issue I think they are wrong.
- They close on Sundays (even though I always crave it on Sundays)
- They are a very successful business and employ a lot of people in a difficult economy, straight AND GLBTQ people. So boycotting their restaurant would be hurting their employees who work hard and need to earn a living just like the rest of us, and if I boycotted every company that did things I didn’t like, I would have no where to eat or shop. Thanks to this guy for reminding me of that.
- I respect CFA for not promoting the Appreciation Day, and I think it would be really great if they donated a portion of their record breaking sales to a cause that the GLBTQ community would support, like The Trevor Project or any bullying or suicide prevention group. I think that would do a lot to build some bridges without compromising their personal beliefs. And wouldn’t it have been really awesome if all those people who bought CFA food on Wednesday would have taken it to homeless people instead of eating it?!
- One CFA is doing something really cool by partnering with a Pride Fest. Isn’t it amazing what can happen when we sit down at table together for a conversation instead of throwing around words and instagram photos?!
While I do like CFA, I also did not want to in any way be a part of Wednesday’s Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day. It literally made me sick to my stomach – my stomach was in knots all day and the day after as people kept posting pictures of their “successful” days eating at CFA. I’ve been thinking about it a lot, and I think I was so upset by the whole thing because it seemed that everyone forgot that there are real people, real children of God involved in this “issue”. Every time one of my facebook friends posted a picture of their crowded CFA, my heart hurt for all of my friends and the people I don’t know who are truly hurting because of the current words being spoken and the policies in place and the potential bans being lobbied for in states all over the country. People who work just as hard as the rest of yet are denied many civil rights because of who they are and who they love. People who have loving families. People who have great faith and love God.
The words that kept popping into my head on Wednesday as I scrolled through facebook updates were smug and pharisaic. I know you were not intentionally either of these on Wednesday. For those of you who are my friends who participated in Appreciation Day, I know you are loving and kind people. And I understand the reasons you went to CFA on Wednesday, really I do. But I just have to say, from the outside looking in, to people who think differently from you, it did not look kind and loving. Jesus was always on the case of the Pharisees who strove to live by the letter of the law (First Amendment Rights! “Biblical” Definition of Marriage!) but who failed to see or help people who were hurting. People are more important than issues and causes and being right.
I didn’t find out until afterward, but actual churches were rallying behind CFA and telling their members to go on Wednesday. Really? Is that what we are called to do? The whole Bible for me, and the whole mission of the church, can be summed up in these (condensed) words of Jesus: Love God, Love Neighbors. No “love CFA” No “love the first amendment”. How was the demonstration on Wednesday anywhere close to loving God or loving our neighbor?!
What I think Wednesday did was to confirm in the minds of many GLBTQ folks and non-Christians that all Christians are anti-gay and judgmental. There was a study done a few years ago, and those were the top two perceptions non-Christians had of Christians, and I doubt the perception has changed. I think Christians need to concentrate more on the Love God, Love Neighbor stuff if we are ever going to seen as relevant again.
I know that not all people who went to CFA went because they hate gays and that many of them had good intentions. But even though you may say that you don’t hate gay people, you have to look how they are treated in society and see why perhaps they have their guard up and feel hated by what happened on Wednesday. When CFA gives money to organizations that spread lies, fear, and hatred of the GLBTQ community, it feels like hate. When CFA gives money to organizations who actively promote bans on gay marriage, it feels like hate. When the COO of CFA says he wants to strengthen families, yet also wants to deny GLBTQ people the right to be a family unit with all of the benefits that come with that, it feels like hate. When he goes on another interview and says, “”I think we are inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at Him and say, ‘We know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage,’ and I pray God’s mercy on our generation that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude to think that we have the audacity to try to redefine what marriage is about,” it feels like hate. When hundreds of thousands of people flock to Chick-fil-a in a counter protest and post celebratory pictures and status updates, it feels like hate. It just does, so a little sensitivity is needed when dealing with these “issues”, yes?
I really hope we can all learn something from these last two weeks, me included, as we keep striving to be the people of God in a complicated world.
In closing, I quote John Stewart about my hope for the future, “In 10 years, America will have a lot more gay marriage and a lot more Chick-fil-a restaurants because they are both quality products.” You really should watch his whole bit! It’s crass at some parts, but hey, it is The Daily Show.
Other things that inform me
The Bible is not anti-gay by Neely Stansell-Simpson
Some Words For Christians on Both Sides of the Chick-fil-a War by Rachel Held Evans
5 Reasons Why the Church Failed Yesterday by Mathew Paul Turner
Now onto things we can all get excited about! Olympics! Funny Kids! College Football! Back to School Shopping! Sabbatical!