I know that at this point in my life, I should probably feel like an adult – a real bonifide grow-up person. But I just don’t. Maybe it’s because my other half can get the student discount at the movies. Or maybe it’s because I spend a lot of my life with people who are one and four. Or maybe it’s because I spend a large part of my work life with teenagers. (Last week, we were trying to come up with group names for our NEW! Evening Women’s Group at church as well as our NEW! Middle School Girls Bible Study. I made a few suggestions at the women’s group – some not-so-serious like “ladies of the night” – but some others that I thought were great like “soul sisters”. The women did not like any of my ideas, but the middle school girls LOVED “Soul Sisters” which you can pronounce “Soul Sistas” if you’d like, so perhaps I do think more like a middle school girl than a grown-up woman).
I do feel more like a grown-up today, however, than I did a month ago. In the past month or so, our tasks have included:
- Refinancing our mortgage
- Celebrating the FOURTH birthday of our firstborn
- Taking our second born for his 15 month well visit
- Making living wills
- Making wills*
- Meeting with two different lawyers and a mortgage broker
- Making copies of aforementioned living (and post-death) wills as well as copies of the keys to our firesafe box to give to our executor and alternate executor.
- Switching banks (from a mega evil bank to a local bank – which we hope is less evil)
- Switching information on all automated payment accounts because of bank switch (FYI – this is a pain in the butt)
- Switching cable/internet providers
- Organizing our files
- Buying a shredder
- Interviewing for residency programs (ok, this is just Russ)
- Making plans to start a DMin program next year (ok, this is just me)**
All of these words just sound boring and grown-up. And the actual doing of the tasks that include these boring words is just a bit overwhelming. Perhaps this is why the last few weeks has also included the use of a heating pad on multiple occasions because of back and neck pain.
*Whilst making our wills we had to calculate all of our assets (house, cars, bank accounts, investments) and liabilities (mortgage, car loan, student loans) and we have a negative net worth, so I guess we’re not so grown-up afterall…or maybe we are. But not to fear, Russ reminded me again that if he dies, his student loans go away, so I’ll be ok. If I die, Russ is screwed – for the next four years anyway…after that, he won’t really need me.
**That’s right folks, we’ll both be Drs. Our poor children. Also, this DMin (Doctor of Ministry) is REALLY exciting. It’s a DMin program that will have a satellite HERE – so for a majority of my classwork, I don’t have to travel anywhere (if we stay HERE for residency anyway..and even if we don’t stay here, where we go will be close enough and my parents will still live here). Also, it is a DMin program that will most likely include one course in SCOTLAND. Also, it is a DMin program that will include only women, most of whom I already LOVE – CAN YOU TELL I’M A LITTLE EXCITED?!
Ok, so maybe being a grown-up isn’t all that bad.